Bad Experiences, Good Experiences
I had an experience years ago that I did not want to repeat. I felt terrible for how I conducted myself. I’d like to be granted a do-over to correct how I conducted myself.
I had an experience years ago that I wish would repeat. I felt incredible and I desire a similar experience to occur again. I’d love to be granted a do-over so this incredible experience could possibly be an everyday event.
Different experiences affecting me differently,…one negative, one positive but in their essence they are quite similar.
The end result is they create the same effect within my/our consciousness.
Unconsciously we stop and pause what we are doing in the present moment to ensure that either the particular experience does not occur again or that the particular experience does occur again. It’s a total unconscious action and totally against being in the present moment. It’s as if we are holding the present moment hostage. When we are waiting for the bad or the good we are literally placing our life on hold,..we hit the pause button.
How’s that working you for ?
This is a very subtle point because we continue living our everyday life so it appears that all things are running smoothly and without much effort. But there is a background tension that is just below the surface undetected. We are braced and using some of our vital life energy to either keep a watch out for a similar experience that devastated us or the opposite one that elated us. Either way we are in waiting mode and braced for rejection or acceptance. We are not in the present moment. We are in our past. We are also in our future anticipating,..and, not in the present moment.
So what’s the solution to this dilemma ?
Regarding both situations,..first we need to recognize that we have in fact placed our life in pause mode. It matters not that the experience was negative or positive, the affect we have instituted on our life flow is on hold and braced for the inevitable negative or potential positive.
Second,…after we have discovered and acknowledged the pause button mode we have been in we then need to forgive ourself for this faux pas in thinking. Simply forgive yourself for judging yourself, not seeing accurately what you were instituting and realize that this too was a learning event. By initiating this depth of honesty, clarity has a fertile ground to manifest and more assuredness will soon appear.
Third,…it is advantageous to not have an attachment to the event. Meaning, you don’t need to brace yourself for a similar or another negative event occurring. Even if it shows it’s head again know you can handle it with confidence and ease because you are practicing being in the present moment. Similarly you don’t need to be overly hopeful for a potentially positive event to re-occur. Think of this in this way, maybe if you release yourself from desiring to repeat the positive event, an even better and more uplifting event can come forward. But, because you are poised for this particular past event to re-occur, there is no room for another more beneficial event or experience to appear in your life.
Practicing being in the present moment
Now that you have a handle on the pause button mode you were in you are now aware of how this pause button mode operates and potentially when your mindset might allow it to re-appear again. You accomplish this by being in observation mode. To do that you become the witness, paying close attention to how your mind wants to take you down a similar road of bracing for a negative or anticipating a positive experience. You need to do nothing about either, just observe. Be silent and offer no energy to either position, just observe. Allow it to be what it is. You will soon discover that both positions, negative or positive, are in a part of your mind and ego and not your truer nature known as your higher self. Your truer nature is the one observing both points of view.
This is a very subtle experience to observe
What’s wrong with desiring to repeat a fulfilling experience ? The key word here is repeat. You are not in the present moment. You are comparing what was and holding that past experience as reference point for what the present moment is presenting you.
Not one thing is wrong about experiencing a fulfilling experience. Let’s take having a loving and intimate relationship as an example. Repeating affirmations and programming for a loving relationship, for example, is just step one. Doing these practices assist to create the environment for your headspace to accept that you are lovable and can attract the perfect partner. Then what do you do ?
Most likely the answer is, you are waiting. And most likely you are comparing every potential person whom would potentially fit your perfect relationship model with what used to be. Where is the present moment ? You are either back in your past or projecting forward to what was or what could be. That is not being in the present moment. Not being in the present moment creates a field of distraction. That field of distraction will blind you to the incredible individual and incredible relationship standing right in front of you. But you don’t see it because you are in pause mode waiting for what you speculate will fulfill you. Really ? What fulfilled you years ago or even just yesterday might actually not even catch your attention today in the present.
You’ve grown in consciousness so it’s time to let go
Let go of waiting. Let go of anticipating. Let go of expecting. Practice being in the present moment.
Allowing yourself and giving yourself the permission to be in the present moment stirs a new excitement within your spirit. That new excitement becomes the doorway that channels in your highest good. Holding on to a past experience hoping to not have it repeat or to have it repeat keeps you with your finger on the pause button of your life.
You can handle the present moment when it comes forward. By being the witness and observing what life is bringing to you you will be better equipped to navigate the new and incredible experiences manifesting in your life.
Finger off the pause button please.
Embrace the present moment with passion and clarity and life will unfold it’s richness in your life. I promise you.